A Letter To My 16 Year Old Self

Dear 16 Year Old Me,

First of all, STOP CALLING YOURSELF FAT! You won’t possibly believe this, but one day you’ll wish you were this ‘fat’ again. You are young and beautiful…enjoy the hell out of it! Sorry to tell you this, but your days of being able to eat whatever you want and still be a skinny little bitch are numbered. And I know people keep calling you Jessie Spano. It’s true, there is a slight resemblance (mostly it’s the hair and the height…not the feminist attitude or the boyfriend with the mullet.)
Sure, it makes you feel cool right now, but trust me…in a few years Jessie Spano will do something that will shock the world. Rid yourself of the nickname ‘Jessie Spano’ immediately. Just trust me on this one.

Next, promise me you’ll treat everyone you know right now with kindness and respect. You think you will move away to college one day and never see these people again. But in the future there will be something called the internet…which will lead to Facebook…which will lead to people from your past re-surfacing….which might make you feel guilty for some of your behavior if you don’t check yourself right now. So be kind to people. Oh! And one more thing…you won’t BELIEVE how many of your best friends now will still be your best friends 20 years from now. Lifelong friends are rare. You are so lucky! 
Okay, now onto boys. You have just started dating a boy who you’ll be with until you graduate. He’s a good guy…but he’s not ‘the one.’ What if I told you that he is now working in a strip club? There, I might have just saved you from a life of pole dancing. (You can thank me later.) And what if I told you that in college you’ll meet this farm kid…and he will become the love of your life? He will be the father of your children. And he will be your best friend. He’ll make you laugh, he’ll make you cry,  he’ll make you spitting mad, he’ll make you feel happy and content. And when times get rough, you’ll always work through it together. (By the way…I don’t want to spoil anything for you, but you are going to have some amazing kids!) 
I know that these days you spend a vast amount of time rolling your eyes at your parents and talking disrespectfully to them. Knock it off! They will ALWAYS be there for you…unconditionally. So you better be good to them. I realize you will most likely have to become a parent yourself before you can understand how deeply they love you. And they really do know what’s best for you…so listen to them. They’re actually pretty cool (for parents). 
Regarding music: Right now you’re listening to a lot of  Janet Jackson and Whitney Houston. These are good choices. Unfortunately, you are also enjoying “Whoomp There It Is” and “Rump Shaker.” These are not good choices. I advise you to let them go…and perhaps gravitate towards some Nirvana instead. (It will raise your cool factor when you’re older.)  Also, don’t get too attached to Ace of Base, yeah? And you will definitely go through a country phase in college. Don’t fight it. But don’t be afraid to let it go when the time is right, either. 
Lastly and most importantly, let’s talk confidence. GO FORTH AND BE CONFIDENT, GIRL! What are you so insecure about? Go for it! You might want to re-think your first college major. You might want to pursue dance in some way, because you’ll miss it SO much once it’s over.  You might want to try moving farther away from home for a while. You might even want to travel the world! Maybe one day you’ll take up running or blogging. (What’s blogging? It’s this crazy thing from the future…you’ll love it.) Whatever it is you want…go get it! Stop worrying about what everyone else thinks. Stop doubting your ability. Stop talking yourself out of things. Getting out of your comfort zone is a great thing. You really can do anything you set your mind to. (I don’t want you to wait until you’re in your 30’s to discover this.)  
Oh yeah, one more thing: NO MORE BLOSSOM HATS!
Have fun, make me proud, and Dance Til Dawn…
35 year old Me


  1. No more Blossom hats??? What?

    Oh, Jessie Spano, you are a wise 16 year old.

    Great post!


  2. HAHAHA! Love this post and the pics to boot, did I mention you are an awesome writer and I so look forward to your posts! :))))

  3. Wow! If we only knew then what we know now! Love this post. I think if I write a letter to my 16 year old self, my daughter might actually benefit from it when she turns 16…maybe:-)Great post!

  4. I need to go back and time and stop the wearing of Blossom hats too. They seemed so cool back then. lol.

    Great letter!

  5. Ohhh… the things I would tell my 16 year old self. Wow. Some of the things that seemed so big and important back then, we now realize don’t really matter that much at all. And yes, the 16 year old idea of fat! Please, please let me be that “fat” again!

  6. Great post. I wrote a letter to my High School self after a reunion! BTW I like the Blossom hat! ๐Ÿ™‚ Stopping by from SITS: Happy Saturday Sharefest! Nice to “meet” you.

  7. So many gems in here that I, too, wish I’d told myself particularly about those Blossom hats. WHY?

    Love your blog. I am so not that mom, either, and sometimes feel like I’m drowning in a sea of those moms. Happy to have found you out here doing this futuristic blogging stuff.

    • Oh my gosh…drowning in a sea of those moms. I LOVE that! Isn’t that just how it feels sometimes? (And so many people are regretting their Blossom hats. What were we thinking???) Thanks for stopping by!

  8. Haha…I love it! I turn 35 in less than a month, so I can relate to basically everything you talked about.

    Stopping by from SITS ๐Ÿ™‚

  9. Absolutely LOVE this post! ๐Ÿ™‚ It is fantastic in every way. Came via SITS Sharefest on Twitter and so glad I did!

  10. What a wonderful letter! I think my music choices have changed too. Stopping from SITS!

  11. This is really entertaining!
    And you are so right about the beautiful “fat” we once were.
    I think it’s funny that both your namesake and your ex-boyfriend have stripping in common.

    Dropping in from SITS!

  12. LMBO!!! I am literally laughing out loud! Don’t knock the boyfriend with the mullet. Look at him now! Happy to be visiting from SITS. Too funny. Andrea @ be-quoted.com

  13. Great letter! Loved the part about your music choices!

  14. Look at the lessons you’ve learned in just 20 short years. Just think of what the next 20 years will teach you. In 2033 when you look back at your newest blog post “Am I Really Qualified To Be a Mom?” you’ll see that you’re not only qualified, you are gifted and talented at being a loving, wonderful mother. Maybe you’ll even be a Grandma by then and find out that life continues to offer new adventures each year of our lives. Enjoy every year of your life, blossom hat or not.

    • I just gasped at the thought of being a grandma in 20 years! Sounds like I’ll have to brace up for more parenting “adventures”…that is, IF my kids are still speaking to me and haven’t blown their life savings on therapy by 2033. (And I wonder if Heather still has my Blossom hats. Of course I handed them down to her. Lucky girl!)

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